Zuckerberg continued, “From her perspective, it’s like, ‘Oh, not a big deal, it was quick question, just go back to what you’re doing.’ It’s like, nah, that’s not how it works.”
Now comes the part where I am the problem.
I’ve been living with my longtime fiancée, Hend, for years. During the Covid-19 crisis, we became even closer as we worked — and continue to work — primarily from home. I joke that during the pandemic I realized that she was not just my best friend, but my only friend.
However, after listening to Rogan and Zuckerberg, I realized I’m the one who interrupts my fiancée, as opposed to their perception about their wives. In contrast with Rogan, who says he runs away from his wife when he has an idea, I run to my fiancée. As Hend put it recently, living with me is like having “my own personal radio show.” (Thankfully, she said that playfully.)
Even though I host my SiriusXM show from the company’s studios two to three days a week, I’m home daily doing prep for the show. I’m always trying to come up with show ideas and working on articles to write, and she is my go-to. While I’m no longer a full-time standup comic, I still perform frequently, meaning when I come up with a new joke, she’s the first to hear it.
I realize now after listening to Rogan and Zuckerberg that I interrupt my fiancée numerous times a day — always thinking it’s a simple question, oblivious to how it might interrupt her being in the “zone.”
Now, my fiancée being the compassionate, caring person she is, has not complained to me. Nor has she appeared on the nation’s top-rated podcast — like Rogan and Zuckerberg did to vent about their spouses. (I wonder how their wives responded when they heard the comments?)
But as Zuckerberg correctly noted, working from home is about finding the right “mix.” That is something I may need to work on more to be fair to my fiancée — as do others who think it’s only a slight interruption when they ask a “quick question” to a loved one working from home.
Oddly enough, Rogan and Zuckerberg may be helping me become a better partner and co-worker. Now, the only question is whether I should I interrupt my fiancée to tell her what I’ve learned.